Acne and Self Esteem

Jane woke up feeling low today. She got a number of skin products 3 months ago that promised to improve her skin. She remembered being excited. Today, she looked at the mirror , she could barely look at her face. Her acne had worsened…. once again.

She picked herself up and went to school. It’s the end of school year, school mates taking pictures here and there. Mary called out, Susan too and Faith (all with perfectly glowing skin). “Come take a selfie with us”, They said. Jane made up some excuse and left.

A common misconception is something has to be “EXCESSIVE” before you can feel bad about it. You may have had moderately severe acne, severe, mild and even the mildest of the mild acne and regardless of how many papules you can count, ACNE is ACNE.

Quick Flashback: I remember talking to a group of friends about how my acne used to make me feel insecure and inferior in my past and I got the reaction, “for ordinary acne again?”. Fast forward to a few weeks and this same person had a giant papule on her chin, just one I must say and she couldn’t stop fussing about it.

ACNE AFFECTS MORE THAN YOUR SKIN

Researchers have found in study after study that people with acne can also develop:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Low self-esteem
  • Poor self-image
  • Decreased quality of life
  • A feeling of being all alone

To someone who may have never experienced the gruesomeness of Acne, this may come off as Excessive. So let’s think of this logically;

The whole world obsesses about perfect skin and Jane used to have this and all of a sudden, it was all gone. She takes a picture that she thinks she looks great in but someone comments and says, “what happened to your face? It’s as rough as granite”. Another says, “you should bathe often” and Another goes on to talk about some miraculous lotion that will cure your acne in 2 days. Jane feels crushed and she deletes her once thought to be beautiful photo.

Another scenario: A person sees Jane at the supermarket and says, “hey Jane, what happened to your face? You look awful. My cousin used ____and it cleared her skin, you must try it too. So, Jane starts applying it religiously on her affected areas and it may get better but at some point, it just stopped working. Once again, Jane is frustrated and disappointed.

Once, a man told me that I would have been so beautiful if I didn’t have so much acne- and you know what? I actually believed him. Silly me. It has been years and now I realize that I didn’t need to have a perfect skin to be beautiful. I’m not beautiful despite my acne, I’m simply beautiful

Acne and poor self image

Individuals who suffer from acne often feel ashamed of the lesions, and compensate in various ways. They may hide themselves by refusing to go out with others. Others may grow their hair long or hang it over their face to hide the lesions. Young males who have acne over the shoulders, chest, or back, sometimes refuse to partake in sports like swimming because they have to change in public dressing rooms. Girls may opt for heavy makeup to hide current lesions or acne scars, without bothering about the possible flares the cosmetics might cause.

The light at the end of the tunnel

• Acne can be cured but you have to be patient. It may take weeks, months, a few years, a decade but one day it will eventually stop erupting.

• Love your Skin. Once I asked, what exactly does it mean to love oneself? What I now think it is, is to look at the mirror and say “this is me, no one else but me”, to embrace your perceived flaws and blemishes, to know that you do not need to be perfect to be beautiful and that you are beautiful just the way you are. Love your skin always, in breakouts and in glow ups.

• Life is a choice. You can decide to be that gloomy girl/boy with acne or that Boy/Girl who people look up to because he/she is so confident.

• Get the right products (that are right for you) and ride with them. Be consistent. This is a huge struggle, even for me.

• Find ways to love your skin and yourself. I can not emphasize this enough.

• Skin care, Skin love- they are not linear, there will always be moments of fall backs, relapses and sometimes, you’d wake up hating your skin but you have to pick yourself up and love yourself once more again.

Like galaxies in the universe, so are acne to your face.

I could go on and on about Acne and Self Esteem but I hope I’ve been able to bring enlightenment to both Acne survivors and those that are not.

Here are a few questions for you?

Have you been Jane?

How have you dealt with people making remarks about your skin?

How do you cope with your self esteem?

Do you sometimes wish you had better skin?

Was this post beneficial to you?

Please leave a comment and don’t forget to tell someone about Acne Bloom today 💞

23 Replies to “Acne and Self Esteem”

  1. Very insightful and empowering♥
    Yes is my answer to most of the questions oo.. Honestly, I had started becoming Jane without even realizing it until I read this. This was because I recently had a friend stay with me for a little over month and wouldn’t stop throwing negative light on my face!

    Like galaxies in the universe, so are acne to my face. Thanks girl 😍

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  2. I am Jane, Jane is me 😂
    One of the major reasons I don’t take pictures is because of how bad I feel my skin looks, I would literally trade anything to have a flawless face. I know I may not really look like a “low self esteem” kinda person but the “why is your face like this” comments really get to me sometimes.
    And to think that I got new skincare products some weeks ago and just this afternoon someone reminded me of how the products are not working for me. Omo 😂 I give up

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    1. Oh dear I know how that feels too but you have to make the decision to love your skin till it gets better. Keep at it with your skin care products, consistency is key. Little progress is still progress, no matter how small. As much as it is hard to turn deaf to negative comments, please try to do so and remember, Like stars in the sky, so are acne to your face ✨

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  3. Honestly when I saw this link,I knew this was talking about me..
    I have this friend whose skin is naturally beautiful and we walk together,so they’ll all be like ‘ Clara cut soap for us, you’re always glowing,Jane isn’t she?”..
    It was so frustrating and depressing,I reduced the way we walk together not because of hate but for my mental health and sometimes Clara doesn’t help either she says word like,’ try this, try that,wash your bedspread’..
    It literally hurts because she never understood and everytime I wake up,tbh I don’t pray,the first thing I do is pick a mirror and my roommates are like,’ another day another pimple bla bla’..
    Somedays I don’t go for lectures because I can’t stand the number of questions I have to answer and many advices I have to take that day..

    Maybe someday I’ll learn how to love my skin and my flaws but for now,I have a dead self esteem..

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    1. Oh love, I’m so sorry you have to go through all these. I have been there myself. You have to make the big girl decision and not let anything or anyone bring down your self esteem. All skins are beautiful and You’re beautiful. Your Acne will surely stop erupting someday but you don’t have to wait till then. You have to love yourself till you get to your desired skin care level. Remember, you’re not alone and I’m always here for you 💞

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  4. Wow, this was actually so enlightening and empowering to read. I’ve had my issues with seasonal acne and eczema too.
    I’ve learnt to feel good despite.

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  5. People don’t talk about this much… Very brilliant piece!

    Life is a choice and one can choose to be gloomy but I choose to be happy. Thank you so much!

    I’m waiting for the next oneee!

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  6. At times,I feel like Jane but I think such feeling has been waning as I try to fix my attention on other things that really matters about my personality.
    And I try my best not to make any comment about any Acne- ridden face person I see.
    I just give them a reassuring smile cos I’ve been there before and it’s not funny when everyone seems to notice your flaws than they even notice you.

    Right now, simply sticking to my tiny skin care routine and loving my skin no matter what it presents. 🥰

    Thanks For Talking About This,Kindie❣️,it’s Amazing ☺️

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  7. This is a really nice piece dear❤️
    Personally suffered from acne and the only thing I can boldly say is if you are Jane you’ve got to build a real confidence to get going
    Each day you look up the mirror and you not seeing the beautiful Jane you want to see
    Keep building confidence and making adjustments

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