Jane woke up feeling low today. She got a number of skin products 3 months ago that promised to improve her skin. She remembered being excited. Today, she looked at the mirror , she could barely look at her face. Her acne had worsened…. once again.
She picked herself up and went to school. It’s the end of school year, school mates taking pictures here and there. Mary called out, Susan too and Faith (all with perfectly glowing skin). “Come take a selfie with us”, They said. Jane made up some excuse and left.
Quick Flashback: I remember talking to a group of friends about how my acne used to make me feel insecure and inferior in my past and I got the reaction, “for ordinary acne again?”. Fast forward to a few weeks and this same person had a giant papule on her chin, just one I must say and she couldn’t stop fussing about it.
ACNE AFFECTS MORE THAN YOUR SKIN
Researchers have found in study after study that people with acne can also develop:
- Low self-esteem
- Poor self-image
- Decreased quality of life
- A feeling of being all alone
To someone who may have never experienced the gruesomeness of Acne, this may come off as Excessive. So let’s think of this logically;
The whole world obsesses about perfect skin and Jane used to have this and all of a sudden, it was all gone. She takes a picture that she thinks she looks great in but someone comments and says, “what happened to your face? It’s as rough as granite”. Another says, “you should bathe often” and Another goes on to talk about some miraculous lotion that will cure your acne in 2 days. Jane feels crushed and she deletes her once thought to be beautiful photo.
Another scenario: A person sees Jane at the supermarket and says, “hey Jane, what happened to your face? You look awful. My cousin used ____and it cleared her skin, you must try it too. So, Jane starts applying it religiously on her affected areas and it may get better but at some point, it just stopped working. Once again, Jane is frustrated and disappointed.
Once, a man told me that I would have been so beautiful if I didn’t have so much acne- and you know what? I actually believed him. Silly me. It has been years and now I realize that I didn’t need to have a perfect skin to be beautiful. I’m not beautiful despite my acne, I’m simply beautiful
Acne and poor self image
Individuals who suffer from acne often feel ashamed of the lesions, and compensate in various ways. They may hide themselves by refusing to go out with others. Others may grow their hair long or hang it over their face to hide the lesions. Young males who have acne over the shoulders, chest, or back, sometimes refuse to partake in sports like swimming because they have to change in public dressing rooms. Girls may opt for heavy makeup to hide current lesions or acne scars, without bothering about the possible flares the cosmetics might cause.
The light at the end of the tunnel
• Acne can be cured but you have to be patient. It may take weeks, months, a few years, a decade but one day it will eventually stop erupting.
• Love your Skin. Once I asked, what exactly does it mean to love oneself? What I now think it is, is to look at the mirror and say “this is me, no one else but me”, to embrace your perceived flaws and blemishes, to know that you do not need to be perfect to be beautiful and that you are beautiful just the way you are. Love your skin always, in breakouts and in glow ups.
• Life is a choice. You can decide to be that gloomy girl/boy with acne or that Boy/Girl who people look up to because he/she is so confident.
• Get the right products (that are right for you) and ride with them. Be consistent. This is a huge struggle, even for me.
• Find ways to love your skin and yourself. I can not emphasize this enough.
• Skin care, Skin love- they are not linear, there will always be moments of fall backs, relapses and sometimes, you’d wake up hating your skin but you have to pick yourself up and love yourself once more again.
• Like galaxies in the universe, so are acne to your face.
I could go on and on about Acne and Self Esteem but I hope I’ve been able to bring enlightenment to both Acne survivors and those that are not.
Here are a few questions for you?
Have you been Jane?
How have you dealt with people making remarks about your skin?
How do you cope with your self esteem?
Do you sometimes wish you had better skin?
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